relief!

after two weeks of "negotiation" the boss and i have finally agreed on my wages. feels good, even though i had planned to get more. you should have heard me, though. i was *so* brave and good! i nearly handed in my notice (had it signed and all on my desk)!

money stopped being the issue after about 4 days, and after that it was just a matter of who was the most stubborn. and i learned that i am much more stubborn than i would have guessed... probably more than what's good for me. i really would have handed in my notice if he hadn't decided to surrender in the last minute. even though i really really like this job. not because i necessarily need more money, but because it would be impossible to stay after the discussions we've had.

the things that matter for me when i choose a job are nice colleagues, fun work, and acceptable wages. but if the boss discusses like an old green stupid officer (i.e. gives order and doesn't listen to my opinions) i'd rather have a job that pays less but where i feel that my work is appreciated. and if the boss calls me in the middle of a meeting and laughs scornfully and asks if my knees are shaking yet and sounds as if he would pat me on the head if he only had the chance i can't take it, no matter what the alternative would be.

so i knew i would have to either get him to agree to give me at least 2 sekr more than he wanted, or quit. fortunately he finally decided to accept my final offer, which means i'll get about 1000 sekr more than his final offer. not much, but fortunately it's not the money that matters. i won, and that's what counts in this fight :)

and he was really nice when he talked to me yesterday. and said that he might be incompetent. and i didn't disagree. but i'm probably going to hate him at least two or three more days anyway.

even though i've been so angry these last two weeks that i've been constantly blushing, two good things have come our of it. One: the boss had to give up. i don't think he's used to that. two: i've learned that i can be really good at standing up for myself when i feel i have to. if he had been nice and kind i would have accepted much lower wages than i did now, but if someone tries to patronise me i get upset, apparently (just for your information. from now on i'm mean :)  ¶ 2:20 PM